“It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.” Dr Richard Bandler, co-founder of NLP.
Neuro-linguistic Programming or NLP can be used to assist people to release the negative impact of childhood trauma or memories that are still creating patterns in the present. We come into the world with an innocence that changes as we experience the world around us and the connections and meaning we give to those events. Something that happened to you as a small child may still have a massive impact on your life today, in fact, you many even feel that it is holding you back from your true potential as your past has such a strong hold on you. You just want to let this go once and for all and go on with your life and enjoy the present.
NLP can be used to go back to past events and bring away a different meaning than the one created at that time. It assists to reframe the situation. It can recreate the memory as a new memory. Each time we remember a memory, the very process of recalling the memory changes that memory, so using this fact we can change that memory for the better. Have you ever experienced a situation when you are recounting past memories with a friend or family member and their recollection is totally different from your own? We all have different filters and frames through which we see the world and each one is different, so every rendition of the same event will be slightly different or completely different.
We focus on what we don’t want, more than what we do. We remember the bad things more than we remember the good things, so we can go back and look for evidence of the good things that were also going on at that time and refocus our energy in these areas rather than on the negative.
From these past events and meanings and connections that we have made in the brain we will re-run these patterns over and over and experience these same feelings throughout our adult life and unbeknown to us each occurrence has added to the same feelings until they accumulate to a breaking point. The event that creates the breaking point may not even be that big but it was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Road rage is a good example of this. Do you really think that the driver of the car is angry about the road conditions or how you, or someone else, is driving or is it part of a bigger issue that that person has carried anger inside them for a long time, which could have started back in childhood and has grown until it has developed to a rage and then one day explodes?
These patterns will continue to repeat until they are interrupted and are replaced with new patterns or behaviours. This is where NLP comes in. NLP techniques give quick results and can be reinforced with life coaching techniques to assist you to identify issues and find new thinking patterns and behaviours that work for you to get you more of what you want in life, not more of what you don’t want.
Are you ready to break the cycle? Do you know someone else who is? If so share this post or take action and see how your life can be transformed with NLP and life coaching.
First Published in LinkedIn : 28 July 2016